Buyout · Answer
Is a deferred sale an option?
The short answer
Yes, if you both agree and put it in writing. A deferred sale means one of you keeps living in the house for a set period and it's sold later. The agreement should say who pays what in the meantime, what triggers the sale, and how the price will be set. Your attorney drafts it, and your CPA should check the tax side before you sign.
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What it means
In a deferred sale, you both keep your ownership for now. One of you lives in the house, the sale happens on a date or event you've agreed on, and the proceeds are divided then according to your judgment or settlement. It's a way to buy time, for a school year, a better market, or until one of you can qualify for a loan.
It also keeps you tied together. Plan for that.
Time also changes the math, since the payments, the repairs and the market all keep moving while you wait.
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What the agreement should say
Vague deferred-sale agreements tend to become the next dispute. Yours should name who pays the mortgage, taxes, insurance and repairs while you wait, and whether any of those payments are credited back at the sale. It should set the trigger, such as a calendar date, a remarriage, or a missed payment, and the method for setting the price when the time comes, which you can borrow from how is a buyout price set?
It should also say who picks the agent and how you'll agree on a list price later, so that step doesn't restart the argument. Your attorney writes this. I can tell you what the sale side will need.
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A tax rule to ask your CPA about
There's one fact worth knowing. IRS Publication 523 says you can count the home as your residence while your former spouse is allowed to live there under a divorce or separation instrument and uses it as their main home. That can matter for the ownership and use tests when the house finally sells.
Whether it applies to you depends on your paperwork and your dates, so ask your CPA. I moved out years ago. Do I still qualify for the exclusion? has more.
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When the trigger arrives
Deferred sales end. When the date or event in your agreement arrives, you'll be selling the house just as you would have earlier, with the same decisions about price, repairs and agent, except that by then you may be living separate lives and talking less. Write the sale process into the agreement now. When the time comes, I can work for the sale and send both of you the same numbers, even if years have passed since you last decided anything together.
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